"I wish I’d partied a little less. People always say ‘be true to yourself.’ But that’s misleading, because there are two selves. There’s your short term self, and there’s your long term self. And if you’re only true to your short term self, your long term self slowly decays."
99% isn’t good enough.
If one did not have at least a little luck, one would never survive childhood. But luck can be spent, like money; and lost, like a memory; and wasted, like a life.
Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making
I am in love, or at least serious swooning crush, with this book
Being a single person searching for love teaches you that not everything is under your control. You can’t control whether the person you’ve fallen for will call. You can’t force yourself to have feelings for the nice guy your best friend fixed you up with. You have no way to know whether attending this or that event — a co-worker’s art opening, a neighbor’s housewarming — will lead to the chance encounter that will forever alter your life. You simply learn to do your best, and leave it at that.
I make a lot of fun of NYT’s Modern Love series but at its best it is insightful, humorous, and applicable to most of us. “You simply learn to do your best, and leave it at that.” May we all have the patience, self-confidence, and belief in things to take that wisdom to heart and apply it to life, love, relationships, and nearly everything else.
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I promise not to keep ideas in my head, unfulfilled and full of promise—not to let these vague outlines of future actions give me false confidence and security in the abstract. Instead I will execute them quickly and faithfully so that I am again on the brink of the unknown, hoping that these ideas were not the last that would ever come to me from God knows where.
& the trees look at all of you the same, & say nothing.
Do you guys follow Kelly? You should.
Love is not simple. It is stomach flus. It is parent teacher conferences. It is enduring delayed flights and too many bills and arguments that aren’t really about the argument at all. It is about trust that can slip away, that you cannot take for granted because there are no guarantees of forever or even tomorrow.